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 #33524  by Darko
 
Well im fuming right now, and its under strange circumstances.
A good friend of mine, who i have known all my life invited 3 other of my friends to a sad occasion today. But did not even mention anything to me.
Now this sad occasion was his grandmothers funeral, yes, its not the typical day out or party. And its certainly not something you invite friends to or anything. But the fact that he invited 3 other people from our extremely close circle of friends but not be has me so angry.
Im not saying that i would have loved to go to it, i myself dislike funerals just as much as anyone, but whats up his ass if he wont ask me to be with him on this sad day?
Thoughts? Should i be angry?
:?

 #33526  by Falcon
 
does he know how much you hate funerals?

maybe those other 3 friends knew his grandmother real well

i think you should ask him (not in a mad way) why he didn't and see what he says

 #33528  by Darko
 
No. I meant i just don't like them.
And no they weren't, we were all equally helping him through her cancer, he was very attached to her.
And we havnt had a fight or anything. It was so random.

 #33531  by Chantelle
 
If your circle of friend is as you say small and tight

and you were left out, I feel you have right to feel upset by this

Regardless of whether you like funerals or not, its nothing to do with that, people go with people to funerals to offer support.

For you to be dismissed especially if you have been very caring is a little bit disrespectful.

To be honest I think Id feel as you do.

 #33541  by saunby
 
I think the best way to approach him about it is to say to him that you would have liked to be there to offer him your support, that way you are not accusing him of not inviting you but rather subtley finding out.

 #33544  by Fazz
 
i think it depends, if theer are only u 5 in the circle (him 3 m8s and u) i think you cud be kinda angry, but if there were more then the 5 of u, then he may have only wanted a couple of u goin.

 #33557  by Wolferion
 
Well, to be my opinion... Helping him equally with the other 3 friends of you and then just not being invited on the funerals, while the other 3 were... That's disrespect! I am a man that likes to talk straight. If you feel left out without any good reason, take him outside for a talk between 4 eyes. It is better than talking by telephone or internet, he will have no possibility to do things like : Oh I my mum needs me, bye! ( Lie ). If he accepts to go outside and you discussed till which time you'll be outside, talk with him about it. If he will start telling something as I told before, just send him off. I know this sounds crazy, but to tell, If someone from your great friends changed to a worse, it's no pitty to break up relationship with them, as with time where ever you go, you'll meet other good people, good enough to be your friends. I had 2 friends that I knew since my 6 years, who would think such long childhood friends would change to a **** they are today. First day after knowing the truth by a side informant, I was sad. But after you break the relationship, calm down and tell yourself = Life wont stop by this. I'll meet other people, there is more than 60 years in front of me... Maybe I went too far, but just to let you know my opinion on both possibilites.

 #33570  by Melissa
 
odd situation

one hand your every right to be upset

the other hand if your frined is grieveing badly is it a good time to approach him/her about it... id wait a while